What’s on Your Teenager’s Christmas List? Your Time!
One stable adult! The single most common factor for children who develop resilience is having at least one stable and committed relationship with a supportive parent, caregiver, or other adult. Josh Shipp was a foster kid who moved from home to home during his teenage years. It wasn’t until he met Rodney, that one caring and consistent adult, that Josh was able to grow into a success story. In his book, The Grown-up’s Guide to Teenage Humans, he outlines specifics that all adults can do to assist teenagers thru their most challenging years.
He specifically addresses issues such as trust, rules, communication, sex, death, eating disorders, anger, sexting, cutting, stress, screen time, pornography, cyberbullies, school issues, and how to deal with bullies. I highly recommend this book for every adult that is raising a teenager or soon will be.
One particular point that Josh makes time and time again is that of time. There is nothing more important to teenagers than our time with them. Here is a startling fact brought out in the book:
Teenagers need and deserve more than 20 minutes of adult time per day! Teenagers will test us. What they don’t talk out…they will act out. Parents who intentionally make their teenager a priority – who focus both their time and their attention on their teen – ALWAYS see a tangible return on that investment.
A great video that puts a lot of this together can be found on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wwwFASyQc98 Or search: Josh Shipp, “Every Kid is One Caring Adult Away from Being a Success Story.” Every kid is one caring adult from being a success story. Will you be that caring adult?
Have a wonderful Holiday filled with Joy!
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